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Family Estrangement: Why Adults Are Cutting Off Their Parents

December 3, 2021

One in Four Adults is Estranged from Family and Paying a Psychological Price

Los Angeles Times
November 30, 2021

How to Grieve Estranged Family and Friends During the Holidays

Washington Post
November 24, 2021

VOX: The Family Issue of The Highlight

November 23, 2021

Family Feuds: When Bonds Are Broken

CBS News
October 6, 2021


How the Wisest Families Can Preserve What Matters Most

August 19, 2021

Bank of America Private Bank invites you to join us on August 19 at 2 p.m. Eastern for a discussion that explores family, legacy and happiness, and poses the question – how might our actions today impact generations to come? Our conversation will feature Dr. Karl Pillemer  – Cornell University professor, family sociologist and author. The panel will offer actionable strategies that help family members avoid communication pitfalls and identify shared goals that bring them together.

Estrangement, Forgiveness, and Reconciliation: How Fractured Families Mend

May 26, 2021

This virtual event examines broad themes of forgiveness and reconciliation in the context of Dr. Pillemer’s research on family estrangement. Registration information will be posted at


Mending Family Rifts, March 9, 1:00 – 2:00 PM

March 9, 2021

Dr. Karl Pillemer discovered that family rifts are surprisingly pervasive and often result in long-lasting emotional and physical distress. He will discuss the first national survey on estrangement, including in-depth interviews with hundreds of people who have achieved a reconciliation. He will address such questions as: How do rifts begin? What makes estrangement so painful? Why is it so often triggered by a single event? Are you ready to reconcile? How can you overcome past hurts to build a new future with a relative? Sponsored by Washington Metro OASIS.

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Family Rifts and How to Mend Them: Findings from the Cornell Estrangement and Reconciliation Project

March 25, 2021

Using in-depth interviews with family members, including individuals who successfully reconciled after years or decades of estrangement, plus interviews with family therapists, and data from a national survey, Human Ecology professor, Dr. Karl Pillemer brings his research to bear on how to mend family rifts and estrangement in his new book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them. Sponsored by University of Missouri – Kansas City. Register in advance for this event:


“Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them” Virtual Lecture

January 24, 2022

What makes family estrangement so painful? Why do these rifts arise in the first place, and how can we overcome them? Join a live, virtual Cornell University Chats in the Stacks talk about Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them by Karl Pillemer, the Hazel E. Reed Professor in the Department of Human Development and professor of gerontology in medicine at Weill Cornell Medicine.

Based largely on Pillemer’s groundbreaking, five-year Cornell Reconciliation Project—the first national survey on estrangement—Fault Lines (Avery, 2020) combines science-based repair tools with the personal experiences of hundreds of people who have mended family rifts. The result is a unique guide to healing fractured families, essential during this time of distance and isolation.

There is no cost for this event.

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